Monday, May 23, 2011

Instead of Losing Weight—Gain Thinness!

In 1990 a client with diabetes told me something I’ve never forgotten.
She said she didn’t want to lose anything else since she’d already experienced multiple losses in her life. She decided that in order to be healthy, she’d be okay gaining. When I looked at her with concerned eyes, she said, “Don’t worry, Ellen, my goal is to gain thinness.” The concept stuck with me.
Of course to gain thinness she still had to eat healthy and exercise.
Her focus included finding ways to gain not only thinness, but health, confidence, vitality, self esteem, patience, control, and wholeness.
In her book dedicated to Oprah, “A Course in Weight Loss,” Marianne Williamson says that as with any relationship, the one with your body must be fed not just with healthy food, but with kindness, movement and love.
So, instead of restricting (we all get tired of that), how about adding some of these tools to your life:
  • Take calming breaths when you’re anxious or need a break.
  • Reprioritize when you’re feeling overwhelmed.
  • Change your thoughts when they include harsh self judgement.
  • Accept your imperfections—they make you more human.
  • Learn from your mistakes—don’t drown them out with a pity party of your favorite junk foods.
  • Take classes to stimulate your mind.
  • Volunteer. Giving to others gets you outside of yourself and provides meaning.
  • Celebrate even small occasions by enjoying healthy meals with your friends and family.
  • Play with your children and/or grandchildren.
  • Stretch
  • Dance
  • Get adequate sleep. (Not doing so produces the hormone leptin that increases appetite.)
  • Give yourself credit for your accomplishments.
  • Acknowledge compliments, don’t dismiss them.
  • Treat yourself as well as you treat those you love.
  • Say the serenity prayer to help you to accept those things you cannot change.
Have you nurtured your whole being today? It just might determine how many pounds of thinness you gain!

Ellen is a psychotherapist in private practice in San Francisco and
Redwood City, California. She specializes in Cognitive Behavioral
Therapy and incorporates the use of mindfulness into the treatment of
depression, anxiety, and emotional overeating. She runs a holistic
weight loss program called Center for Thoughtful Weight Loss,
www.thoughtfulweightloss.com. You can email Ellen at ellen@thoughtfulweightloss.com
copyright © 2011 Ellen N. Resnick, LCSW

Sunday, May 8, 2011

Mother’s Day challenge: Lose 100 calories per day by playing with your child for 22 minutes

What a great gift to yourself (and those you love) on Mother’s Day! Actively play with your children.
Research published in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that women who do 150 minutes of weekly activity—including basketball, running, brisk walking, or housework tend to be six pounds lighter than their less active counterparts over a 20 year span.
Remember all those things your Mom told you — stand up straight, get outside in the fresh air and exercise, always wear clean underwear in case you get hit by a bus, don’t mix plaids with print (now considered very chic), be nice to the nerdy guy, eat your vegetables — she really did know best (except for the plaids).
Maybe the best thing you can do, and the best present you can give (for you, your mother, or your kids) this Mother’s Day, is to stick to a healthy lifestyle. This is a great idea whether you’re a mom or not.
Sound boring? Shake it up, and have some fun! Here are some ideas that are good for your weight control and your psyche too. Scheduling it into your routine guarantees a fun time with your children. Who wouldn’t benefit from some time spent on something other than directing homework or chores?
You could:
  • dance to your favorite music
  • hula hoop
  • exercise with your favorite Wii
  • play tag or hopscotch
  • hike
  • play twister
  • swim
  • jog or walk together
  • play charades
  • go kayaking or canoeing
  • ski
  • jump rope together
  • go golfing
And for those with a puppy, try training them to throw you the ball so you’re the one doing the fetching!
A special thank you to Sammi, my step daughter for her great playful ideas for this blog and for being you!
Happy Mother’s Day!
Ellen is a psychotherapist in private practice in San Francisco and Redwood City, California. She specializes in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and incorporates the use of mindfulness into the treatment of depression, anxiety, and emotional overeating. She runs a holistic weight loss program called Center for Thoughtful Weight Loss, www.thoughtfulweightloss.com. You can email Ellen at ellen@thoughtfulweightloss.com